Why are people so difficult?

[iSon]

Well why are they!?

I wouldn't mind but the standard seems to differ each time.

Friends are tough at the best of times, but things don't usually get that hairy. Whereas you walk down the pub and say hello to all the regulars that are indeed my friends yet I know I'll never have a single problem with them. We just stand at the bar and have a good laugh with each other and occassionally buy each drinks and win quizzes.

Perhaps the key here is what we come to expect from people? I'd have no doubt in saying that I expect different things from the lads at the bar compared to someone that I wanted to be in a relationship with. That's obvious...But it leads me onto the main point.

Why is it so hard to strike up a relationship with someone...even if most of the time both parties seem interested. I am speaking from personal experience and things have happened both sides here. There have been occassions where people are interested in me, and I feel that I'm interested in them but have never felt I could be involved in a relationship with them.

But more often that not, it's the other way round. Before you all jump in with the standard "well he's bullshitting you...he don't really care" rubbish, then I don't belive that to be true. I may be naive but not THAT naive.

So why is the situation such a difficult one...And why has it left me with so many hours of heartache over the last 2 weeks? I always like to think I'm in control and know when to stop - but well I'm a sucker for love. Shame the people I'm interested in don't seem to show the same kind of enthusiasm.

What can I say?

[Snu]

Relationships are a difficult thing. But what’s hardest IMO by far is the initiation. Sometimes it can be fun and quite exciting to discover if your feelings really do match those of the other person. But at the same time, it can be upsetting that in spite of all your best efforts, the prospect of a relationship never really gets of the ground.

I guess I have been there quite recently and I refuse now to get upset about it. I figure if all lights point to go, yet the other person is still at a stop, then they….would make a lousy driver? As well as probably a lousy other half.

James, I think the only solution is that we have sex…in front of the other person who is annoying you! Yeah, that’ll learn them!!!

[huddsguy]

And then where does the line cross from being friends to being more. And do you risk that friendship to be something more. It's going on in my life at the moment where my best friend is someone I'd like to be with as more, but got no idea if she feels the same... and don't want to risk what got at the moment to find out.

Relationships are just difficult - I suppose that's life!