Isolated
I'm feeling quite low right now, and just very isolated from anybody. I'm not homesick, I'm just as if I've got no one to connect with or talk to. This isn't meant to come across as self-pity (sorry if it is), but I'd appreciate a few words of encouragement.
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Can i ask you why you are feeling like this.Has something happend to you.Are you working away from family and friends.
In the meantime try and think of the family and friends who are in your life and things that do mean a lot to you.I'm unsure of your circumstances but you must have quite a lot going for you.
In the meantime try and think of the family and friends who are in your life and things that do mean a lot to you.I'm unsure of your circumstances but you must have quite a lot going for you.
forgive me for asking - but would words of encouragement from people you do not know, do not know you to any great extent mean anything at all?bee bee see wrote:I'm feeling quite low right now, and just very isolated from anybody. I'm not homesick, I'm just as if I've got no one to connect with or talk to. This isn't meant to come across as self-pity (sorry if it is), but I'd appreciate a few words of encouragement.
as much as i like our little online community - if i'm feeling low, i don't think a few words from the guys on here (however well meant) would really mean a great deal. perhaps a text to a close friend or family member might be more help - there must be someone who is just a phone call away.
there, see, step aside anna raeburn, i'm not the hateful, twisted, uncaring dame you all think i am.
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No matter how low or fed up you are remember that you can always talk about it .Sometimes it does help to talk to strangers rather than family or friends if your worried about something.
Nothing dramatic has happened, but perhaps that's the problem. I'm at univeristy in Kent (I hate saying uni for some reason) and I don't feel like I've connected or made friends with anyone in particular, especially not my flatmates. Sure, we talk, but we don't have a lot in common.
I'm really into comedy, but unlike Footlights at Cambridge, I haven't got anywhere to persue this. I'm part of the Creative Writing society, but I've been to one meeting which was good, but not for comedy really. I'm also part of a Drama society, but I've heard nothing about meetings.
I'm not missing family really, even if my Mum and Nana miss me quite a bit (my Dad and Grandad both think it's good that I'm away from them), and I'm definitely not a party person, and I don't drink, so I'm gradually turning into some sort of recluse or hermit, which I don't want.
I have tried, but it's not easy, and advice tends to be the same when I receive it. And phone calls to another person is impossible, seeing as my phone is currently out of action. Besides, I don't particularly want to speak to my family. What's more, all my old schoolfriends seem to be doing fine, making friends really easily.
I'm really into comedy, but unlike Footlights at Cambridge, I haven't got anywhere to persue this. I'm part of the Creative Writing society, but I've been to one meeting which was good, but not for comedy really. I'm also part of a Drama society, but I've heard nothing about meetings.
I'm not missing family really, even if my Mum and Nana miss me quite a bit (my Dad and Grandad both think it's good that I'm away from them), and I'm definitely not a party person, and I don't drink, so I'm gradually turning into some sort of recluse or hermit, which I don't want.
I have tried, but it's not easy, and advice tends to be the same when I receive it. And phone calls to another person is impossible, seeing as my phone is currently out of action. Besides, I don't particularly want to speak to my family. What's more, all my old schoolfriends seem to be doing fine, making friends really easily.
Here's some advice from a University of Kent alumnus:bee bee see wrote:Nothing dramatic has happened, but perhaps that's the problem. I'm at univeristy in Kent (I hate saying uni for some reason) and I don't feel like I've connected or made friends with anyone in particular, especially not my flatmates. Sure, we talk, but we don't have a lot in common.
I'm really into comedy, but unlike Footlights at Cambridge, I haven't got anywhere to persue this. I'm part of the Creative Writing society, but I've been to one meeting which was good, but not for comedy really. I'm also part of a Drama society, but I've heard nothing about meetings
Firstly, don't worry about not feeling as though everything's not completely right in the first few months. It does take time. For me, uni started for real when I stepped outside the reality I'd built up, moved in with some randoms, and had a hell of a lot of fun in years 2 and 3.
Secondly, comedy you say? The University of Kent has a fantastic group of comedians. They ain't no Footlights, certainly, but they are there. They are called Monkeyshine, they put on regular performances, usually in Mungos. And there's a comedy bit within the Drama Department. So be proactive, have a gander at the Kent website and start e-mailing people. Trust me, it works.
One possible solution: put out some posts on The Student Bar or Facebook.
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Your very lucky your at UNI.You have youth on your side and a lot to look forward to some people don't have any of that .Most of all it sounds as though you have family and friends supporting you even if they are far away.
You should try and connect with others i know it's difficult sometimes but try to make the effort sometimes we can be to hard on ourselves.
You have moved away from home and all the comforts and perks.Your now out in the big bad world fending for yourself and managing yourself it does take a lot of getting use to you it's tough at first.But i think you'll be just fine.
No matter how fed up or down you are remember you can call your family and friends on a pay phone at anytime.Don't ever feel too lonley and do something silly.Remember we're here for you to even although we don't know you and we're not close friends we can support you.
You should try and connect with others i know it's difficult sometimes but try to make the effort sometimes we can be to hard on ourselves.
You have moved away from home and all the comforts and perks.Your now out in the big bad world fending for yourself and managing yourself it does take a lot of getting use to you it's tough at first.But i think you'll be just fine.
No matter how fed up or down you are remember you can call your family and friends on a pay phone at anytime.Don't ever feel too lonley and do something silly.Remember we're here for you to even although we don't know you and we're not close friends we can support you.

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