I just have to have a moan

[DAS]

I'm sorry for using this place as a way of airing my frustration, but my usual outlet is unavailable and I need to get it out.

One of my housemates. Don't live with him. He's extremely rude - not consciously. Even worse, it's unconscious. He is an utter plank. A wet fish. Has no idea of what sharing a house entails. Thinks the fairies come to do his washing up, replace the kitchen roll, put the rubbish out, do the hoovering.

He's just buggered off to Denmark for a few days, leaving the ironing board in his room, his washing up in and all around the sink, random utensils, plates and food he's just used scattered wherever they were at the time he finished using them. The house smells of fish and his room. The note I wrote asking for him to give me cheques for the bills as soon as possible (after he ignored the bills sitting on the side for days on end) remains on his bedroom floor. No cheques have been written, and won't be until I remind him at least three times more when he gets back. As per usual.

The bathroom remains filthy where he's done his usual "let's ignore the fact it's clean for once and make everything as dirty as possible".

Tunnel vision is an understatement.

There you go. Just had to get it out. I would name him and state his full address but that's perhaps a little too far. I wish he'd stay in Denmark.

[Gavin Scott]

This sounds unnacceptable. Your home shouldn't be a place where you feel tense about what you might find when you put the key in the door.

If your other housemates feel the same way then perhaps you should all commit your discomfort to a formal letter, indicating that you don't feel that his presence is conducive to a happy environment. If he is unable to share housekeeping tasks, or take responsibility for his share of the bills in a timeous fashion, then he should look for accommodations elsewhere.

If his name is on the lease, then you could write to the landlord and outline the issues you indicated. You cannot force him to leave if he has a contract with the owner of the property. On the other hand, if his name is not on the lease then you are within your rights to give him a warning, then fair notice to quit.

Or you could grit your teeth and pop along here to get it off your chest from time to time.

Come and live with me. I'm good to have around.

[Gavin Scott]

Come and live with me. I'm good to have around.

I've been told you snore.

That may be true, but I live alone so there isn't anyone to ask.

[DAS]

Not so bad a situation, as we're all moving out in a week. It's not malicious, he's genuinely unable to see how useless he is and is therefore an awful person to live with.

This morning he asked how to work the washing machine worked, and he's been here since December. I bet if I asked him what day the rubbish collection was, where the mop and bucket were kept, or how the hell stuff such as kitchen roll magically appeared when it ran out, he wouldn't have a clue.

It only makes me tense on occasions such as this, where he rolls all his bad habits into one gigantic big bad habit and the good housemates ain't here!

And his name is Simon.

[Gavin Scott]

Well that's not too bad then.

I wouldn't like anyone to think I sit at home writing letters to people who have crossed me. It just seems more sensible to give advice that won't create more problems than you already are experiencing.

If it were me, I'd have had several blazing rows by now, and would probably leave a poo in his bedsheets as a farewell gift.

[Pete]

I wouldn't like anyone to think I sit at home writing letters to people who have crossed me.

another illusion shattered

[Gavin Scott]

I wouldn't like anyone to think I sit at home writing letters to people who have crossed me.

another illusion shattered

Don't be too disappointed. My vitriol is there, it's just usually verbal.

[cat]

Well, sounds timid by comparison to what i'm experiencing.

One of my flatmates, who used to be the nicest, sweetest, most innocent girl in the world is sitting in the lounge having a conversation about Charlie.

And I don't mean the guy from the Chocolate Factory.

[all new Phil]

Charlie Wells? Is she a forumer too?

You poor guy.

[Sput]

For a second i thought she'd become a Vietnam veteran

[Lorns]

And there was me thinking he was on about Checkpoint Charlie.