I realize its pointless, a 13-year old asking this to a group of fully grown adults, but what the hell, I need advice:
There is a girl in my school who I have liked for a fair few years, and she knows I do. Her friends know as well, and have recently been asking her if she'll go out with me. Obviously the answer was no, but thats what girls say to their mates.
Recently, I have said I don't fancy her anymore, as I can't see a point, and she'll never say yes, but yesterday, I felt I should ask her (with a letter, being a sufferer from Stammer), but I don't know if I should. What do you think?
Girl problems (I know you won't give a toss)
Ordinarily, I don't give a toss, and generally fight myself to write abuse. I decided I'd be a nicer person and therefore haven't done that for a while now. However, tonight I'm in that kind of lovey mood for reasons I don't plan on going into and will give you advice.
You're 13. Might seem like a big deal to you - and perhaps it is - but, seriously, just go for it.
The worst that can happen is she says no. In which case, the world will not end. It will do you a favour - you'll either find out why, in which case you could change things and take a different approach if you're that serious about her, or you can get over her and on with everything else.
If she says yes, great stuff.
Just talk to her, or if you don't want to for reasons you've mentioned, write that letter. Just see what happens but don't let it take over your life.
Don't want to patronise you or anything, but you've got ages.
You're 13. Might seem like a big deal to you - and perhaps it is - but, seriously, just go for it.
The worst that can happen is she says no. In which case, the world will not end. It will do you a favour - you'll either find out why, in which case you could change things and take a different approach if you're that serious about her, or you can get over her and on with everything else.
If she says yes, great stuff.
Just talk to her, or if you don't want to for reasons you've mentioned, write that letter. Just see what happens but don't let it take over your life.
Don't want to patronise you or anything, but you've got ages.
Echoing what DAS said, it seems like a tragedy and an embarassment now, but it will pass, jimbo.
For what it's worth, I was quite shyish at school to, especially around girls. The one thing I did learn was that I should ask a girl out to her face, and not through her mates. Trust me on this one, but asking her to her face sends all types of messages she would like.
Don't write a letter, jimbo. The girl might be a bitch and it might get circulated if she's that way inclined.
For what it's worth, I was quite shyish at school to, especially around girls. The one thing I did learn was that I should ask a girl out to her face, and not through her mates. Trust me on this one, but asking her to her face sends all types of messages she would like.
Don't write a letter, jimbo. The girl might be a bitch and it might get circulated if she's that way inclined.
Go for it mate, ask her out.
I'm only 14 myself, and recently started going out with someone. I really do like her, but I was slightly offended that she had to use her mates to ask me out rather than ask me herself.
She knew I liked her, so why she didn't just ask me, I'll never know.
Anyway, as I've said before, just ask her. The worst thing that'll happen is that she'll say no, and I doubt she will.
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I'm only 14 myself, and recently started going out with someone. I really do like her, but I was slightly offended that she had to use her mates to ask me out rather than ask me herself.
She knew I liked her, so why she didn't just ask me, I'll never know.
Anyway, as I've said before, just ask her. The worst thing that'll happen is that she'll say no, and I doubt she will.
(Woo! First post and I'm already helping people!)
Lol!!Jamez wrote:You're too young to shag her anyway, so what's the point?
Sneaking off behind the bikesheds in breaktime to "kiss on lips" ?
It's not always about sex, James!
Jimbo - do not ask her in a letter! It's so old fashioned and will give the impression you're too shy, which most girls don't like.
Have you got her phone number at all? Or email address? This could be a good way to get to know her first before 'taking the plunge' and asking her out.
If you don't have her phone number, try and get it. It's brilliant if you are a little shy as you asking for her number will show that you're quite brave, but then you could ask her out over the phone or something - it's alot better than doing it in a letter.
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...and you're doing a smashing job! Seriously!Luke-H wrote:(Woo! First post and I'm already helping people!)
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No probs.
I still don't know what do to fellas (or if any women/girls replied I do not know) Please help!
I still don't know what do to fellas (or if any women/girls replied I do not know) Please help!