I am beginning to believe so. This message is not about homosexuality - anyone here long enough knows that I fully accept the gay lifestyle as equal to the straight one (albeit a little more showy and shallow!
)I was thinking the other day that I reached my 20th sexual partner earlier this year. I compared my attitude to women 10 years earlier when I had a lot less sexual experience.
Around 10 years ago, I met someone and ended up going out with her for years. In the very early days of our relationship, I was quite tolerant to some of the things I viewed in her as faults. I was prepared to take the rough with the smooth, as it were.
Now, I am far more selective and judgemental over the types of women I will ever think about having relationships with. I will fault them and finish them for far less than I would have 10 years ago.
I think the reason for that is that I am now far more confident about getting sex at regular intervals than I was as a younger man.
My question is - does the fact that the 'barriers to entry' for sex are a lot less than they were before devalue the way men consider women and women consider men? Is it because we're far more into 'instant gratification' now as human beings, so we're less likely to give someone half a chance?
I think it does, and I'm not sure it's healthy for the soul any more.