For writing?c@t wrote:And I'm left handed.
I have not done anything in the last week apart from work.rts wrote:Cut back on non-essential additional activities you do. You may subconsciously be involving yourself in extra entertainment and such like, to take your mind of the real issues in your life. But by doing so you are making it very hard to identify areas of stress/discomfort/irritation/depression.
Yes I know I have problems, ergo why I'm unhappy. Goes without saying really doesn't it?rts wrote:The hardest thing is always confronting, and dealing with these areas, but once you ride through, a slow process sometimes I admit, you will find other little nit-bits of stress etc can be dealt with immediately and at ease. Don't be ashamed of admitting these to yourself - it's the only way you can deal with them, learn, and progress, rather than remaining encased in a vicious cycle of destruction.
I thought we already identified the issues?rts wrote:You have to break free, James! It is very easy for me to say this, and very hard for you to act out. But you have got to identify all the issues which are causing your current problems allowing you to deal with them, something equally challenging, but a positive step.
Friend who I don't like claiming to love me Timewasting bastard My depressed brotherBeen there, done that. Why do you think I haven't spoken to this "mate" for a week now. Why do you think I'm not going to the quiz tonight? Because I'm being selfish and looking after number 1. It's not always the best way but I can't even bear to think about my "mate" at this point in time. The whole issue makes me want to slit my wrists.rts wrote:So take a step back from your life, be selfish for a bit and really focus on what is exactly that's causing you to be in your current frame of mind, speak to a friend about them, write them down, but sort them out before you do anything else "to take your mind off things".
I'm glad one of us does.rts wrote:I have every confidence that you can break through this.
Which is fine, but make sure you have allocated time to really think long and hard about things. A nice long bath or something. You may have already. I don't know. A nice long sleep always helps too. Take a morning off.Isonstine wrote:I have not done anything in the last week apart from work.
Just make sure there is not something else deeper which you may not have thought about that is causing this.Isonstine wrote: Yes I know I have problems, ergo why I'm unhappy. Goes without saying really doesn't it?
I thought we already identified the issues?
Now don't be silly. What would James Martin do without you? When I say it will take a long time for things to get completely sorted, I'm unfortunately talking months properly, not weeks. It is going to be crap while you ride through the storm, and all my cliches cannot be doing any good at all, but there is light at the end of the tunnel which will slowly start getting bigger every week.Isonstine wrote:Been there, done that. Why do you think I haven't spoken to this "mate" for a week now. Why do you think I'm not going to the quiz tonight? Because I'm being selfish and looking after number 1. It's not always the best way but I can't even bear to think about my "mate" at this point in time. The whole issue makes me want to slit my wrists.
I do. And I'm not the sympathetic sort. If I didn't think it I would let you know. You can get trhough this James. You've had a rich and colourful life and have a strong personality. You certainly have it in you, for your sake.Isonstine wrote:I'm glad one of us does.
get a gripc@t wrote:Oh go away.
I hate people who try to make people feel happy by saying "get a grip".
Wankers.
Anyway, to make things worse, my red face now has to leave the house to go to my local BP garage down the road and by some throat stuff because i'm getting a really sore throat.
Tomorrow is going to be fun.
