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Okay, here’s my situation.

There’s a guy (Isn’t there always) that I’ve been friends with for a little while and that was just fine. However, as if by some cruel turn of fate, him up there has decided that friendship is really not enough for me and that I should push for more. Gah!

The problem with that is when it comes to pursuing relationships, I am lame. I’m not good at getting to the point and telling my true feelings to the person in question and this time is no different. I guess I’m scared that if I tell him I actually really quite like him and developed additional feelings, I might frighten him off. If I don’t he will never know how I feel.

Help! What do I do? I have no idea how the guy feels about me yet I am beginning to fall in love with him.

What do I do? Are there any leading questions I could ask to try and work out his feelings?

Is he even gay? Always a good start. Unless your female in which case my mistake.

I'm the same however, I also have a nasty habit of liking straight guys which will get me nowhere. This reminds me does anyone know where I can get my gaydar fixed, really being gay has no advantages useless gaydar works like a choclit teapot.

Oh he is a gay and I to normally fall for straight men. Which is usually fine because I know that there is no hope.

I must get my gaydar fixed to. I am pretty awful when it comes to guessing who is gay or not. I mean...Julian Clary? Gay??? I thought someone was pulling my leg at first.

Exactly, someone told me the other day I was gay and I was shaken at the core by it. I think it should be compulsory all gay people were a small badge on their clothing to let us know they're gay. It would greatly.

Normally I can "see" the gay people - not easily but rather more than of late. I just cannot see anything with anyone other than the obvious mincers.

I find it easier to see dead people than I do gay people. I have wish I had the mince sense.

Snu, I understand your problem, though I know in advance that what I'm about to say won't help.

In the past this has happened to me a number of times with a number of friends, and every single time that I've been honest about my feelings I've ended up with the "I don't want to spoil our friendship" line. i.e. rejection. Which isn't pleasant. In fact it hurts a lot.

I think I must hold the world record for hearing that line.

marksi wrote:Snu, I understand your problem, though I know in advance that what I'm about to say won't help.

In the past this has happened to me a number of times with a number of friends, and every single time that I've been honest about my feelings I've ended up with the "I don't want to spoil our friendship" line. i.e. rejection. Which isn't pleasant. In fact it hurts a lot.

I think I must hold the world record for hearing that line.

Ahem. In *your* part of the world, perhaps.

I do this. Stick a pin in any page of my diary, and there I'll be; in love with a friend. Fluttering with every innocuous and innocent text message, spending inordinate hours thinking of that person. It happens. Some people are just built that way.

I'm not the type to bottle things up, so the question of whether to announce your feelings or not is a bit of a given, for me at least.

marksi wrote:Snu, I understand your problem, though I know in advance that what I'm about to say won't help.

In the past this has happened to me a number of times with a number of friends, and every single time that I've been honest about my feelings I've ended up with the "I don't want to spoil our friendship" line. i.e. rejection. Which isn't pleasant. In fact it hurts a lot.

I think I must hold the world record for hearing that line.

Very true, I've had that told to me when I told a girl that I had feelings for her and she didn't feel the same way back, it feels like a severe kick in the balls. In a way I kick myself for telling her, but in one way I was glad to get it off my chest, though we're still friends. I thought it would be a good idea as we're good friends, have alot in common, she wasn't seeing anyone, so I thought sod it, as I liked her alot, but she didn't know this.

Luckily I have managed to get over it, as it isn't nice when the truth is told and depending on how you treat it, it could jeopardise your friendship. Though I'm lucky in my case as I have my eyes somewhere else, which she does too. Though no matter how much I would feel for someone else, I wouldn't do what I did again.

Snu wrote:Oh he is a gay and I to normally fall for straight men.

That's because straight men are more fun and aren't camp!

Apart from you of course, Jamez.

Isonstine wrote:Apart from you of course, Jamez.

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