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i respect a great many posters here, so i thought i'd put some of my recent thoughts to you.

you know, i think i have things pretty good. i my job is ok, i have a great circle of very close friends, have had the pleasure of making love to a fair few beautiful intelligent women (alright, a few mingers too, but hey!), i've loved and i've been loved, i think people like to be around me, and generally, i enjoy my life. i'm seldom bored, i'm always doing something to occupy my mind, but, these last few weeks, i feel there is something missing from my life.

i don't know what it is, but sometimes i feel there are things maybe i haven't done or seen which i should have but the funny thing is, i don't know what they are.

anybody else here know what i'm talking about, or can identify with these feelings?

Yes, you're actually gay and you clearly need a boyfriend called Mark.

It's glad to see such a possitive post for once, with the glass half full (although I feel a wanker saying that). But a boyfriend called is the icing on the cake, which is still needed I'm afraid.

marksi wrote:Yes, you're actually gay and you clearly need a boyfriend called Mark.

from what i hear from people, as far as relationships are concerned, being gay is much much more difficult than being straight.

one of my friends was having a heart to heart to me a while back, and the thing i totally take for granted, i am able to walk up to a girl and ask her out for bowl of custard or something and be fairly assured that if she says no, it's either because she is with somebody or she doesnt find me attractive. because, where i live, most people are not 'out' (apparently), this process would be exponentially more taxing because an additional process of attempting to determine if the person is gay would need to be executed.

i'm not sure how one would tactfully do this without possible reprisals. i have had somebody walk up to me and ask me once if i was (he said his mate fancied me) but some types my not take too kindly to this approach and may physically lash out or make homophobic comments. a fair few of my friends have bizzarely homophobic views which makes me believe that this reaction is quite possible.

nevertheless, i will of course look into the boyfriend thing

I have to say I've been feeling pretty similar recently, well in a way. My life is fine at the moment, all going well and am completely happy, well not everything’s perfect but I’m the happiest I've been for a long while. Yet I've also got this unnerving depressing feeling and I'm not sure why.

I've come to the possible conclusion that, although I'm happy with life, I'm not actually *going* anywhere, I'm just drifting along because I'm happy and maybe a change in some way, a new job, something... though I don't know what yet.

I mean I *feel* happy, but maybe I'm not, oh I don't know, tis all very confusing.

Yes... it is a little more difficult. But I think some people blow the problems of being gay way out of propotion. Or perhaps it's just that for me, I've never had a bad reaction to it - one of my friends was vaguely distant for a while after I told her, but otherwise no one has an issue with it.

I think I know how you feel too. I've put it down to being single - I hate being single. And being single at Christmas is less fun than it is during the rest of the year.

ashley b wrote:
I've come to the possible conclusion that, although I'm happy with life, I'm not actually *going* anywhere, I'm just drifting along because I'm happy and maybe a change in some way, a new job, something... though I don't know what yet.

i think you've hit the snail on the head, that's what it is. i was speak to a few people about this at work and it seems many people have these feelings, and the only recommendation they had for me is to travel. it is something i want to do, but it ultimately means taking time out from my job, my family and friends and it kinda scares me a bit. i know they'll be there when i return (job might not be), but its a difficult descision to make.

anybody here just up and left to travel the world randomly?

Dr Sigmund Mohammad wrote:

ashley b wrote:
I've come to the possible conclusion that, although I'm happy with life, I'm not actually *going* anywhere, I'm just drifting along because I'm happy and maybe a change in some way, a new job, something... though I don't know what yet.

i think you've hit the snail on the head, that's what it is. i was speak to a few people about this at work and it seems many people have these feelings, and the only recommendation they had for me is to travel. it is something i want to do, but it ultimately means taking time out from my job, my family and friends and it kinda scares me a bit. i know they'll be there when i return (job might not be), but its a difficult descision to make.

anybody here just up and left to travel the world randomly?

I was actually going to say you want to pack up and get away for a while, but the kitchen caught fire again so I had to go turn the grill off. Then I forgot what I was doing and went walkies.

I wouldn't mind going snowboarding. If I can do that before I draw my pension, I'll be happy. My mother is always secretly planning things, she once mentioned she'd like us all to go to the Canary Islands, next thing I knew we were in Fuerteventura. Didn't turn out to be all that good though.

So... no. I've never dropped everything to travel the world. But if I did, I'd want to go snowboarding. And I wouldn't mind jumping out of a plane, I've always wondered what it would be like to experience a fart at 10,000ft. My life has been so bloody boring I'd love to just do something mad like that. And they say pigs dont fly, I'll show them.

Heres an idea...

When you go to find the missing link in your life... dont be indecisive. Tell yourself, its probably better to regret something you do, then regret something you dont...

Dr Sigmund Mohammad wrote:

ashley b wrote:
I've come to the possible conclusion that, although I'm happy with life, I'm not actually *going* anywhere, I'm just drifting along because I'm happy and maybe a change in some way, a new job, something... though I don't know what yet.

i think you've hit the snail on the head, that's what it is. i was speak to a few people about this at work and it seems many people have these feelings, and the only recommendation they had for me is to travel. it is something i want to do, but it ultimately means taking time out from my job, my family and friends and it kinda scares me a bit. i know they'll be there when i return (job might not be), but its a difficult descision to make.

anybody here just up and left to travel the world randomly?

Yes next year actually. My best friend and I are packing up and leaving the sunshine behind, to come work and travel and Britain. We only decided to do this in October but everything's all set to go now. If ya want to just pull up stumps and go travel... doing it on the spare of the moment is the way to do it. There's no time to worry about whether you're doing the right thing or not. Mind you, I was feeling sick as we were booking the tickets, but completely over it now and really looking forward to getting over there and doing something different.

If you're worried about missing family and friends, they're only a phone call or an email away. A change is as good as a holiday, so I'd go for it. Pick an english speaking, fairly place to go though... it always helps.

I'm Australian, and having to live here, I advise you stay South. Also, be aware of this <a href=http://www.chavscum.co.uk/>common breed of scum.</a>

Theres a show on Sky Travel called Aussie Invasion, where a pack of Australians live in London and explore England. One of them went to Blackpool, and he basically said the people genrally wern't of a high standard.

But hell, good on you. I hope you enjoy your travels.