Gavin Scott wrote:You could always start with a smile, Chie.
But what if they're not in the mood?? What if they're just minding their own business doing the weekly shop in Sainsbury's, and you go up to them in the soup aisle and say, "Excuse me, hi - I was just walking down the highstreet and my iPhone told me that several other gays were in the vicinity - one of them being you - and well, as I think you're well fit, I wondered if you'd like to go for a coffee, maybe?"
I really can't believe people actually do this, you know.
I have never in my life said, "I think you are well fit". To anyone.
I have however said "hello" and smiled, and subsequently met the same person in a gay bar.
And there you have it - bish bash bosh.
There used to be a pocket device (called "gaydar" in fact) that beeped to indicate another such device in your proximity, so you'd know if you passed someone in the street.
But the name says it all - "gaydar" is the innate sense that many gay man have (or say they have) which allows them to find like minded people in a crowd. It could be down to style or affection or eye contact - but that's been going on for centuries without the need for WiFi and 3G devices.
Nothing new or startling about it. You just have to be subtle, like.